I worked for a nursery and the emphasis there was to have straight and true trunks.
This is how I view much of family history. The tree sometimes looks perfect with all the blanks filled in on paper, but when you delve into the lives of the names, you are filled with awe at the courage, faith, strength, and character you find there. They had to finish without a body part sometimes like my father and grandfather, or lift up their hands to find a better place to look forward to like the Hero's uncle who struggled with Lou Gehrig's disease, or persevere in spite of overwhelming odds to raise children without a husband like my grandmother did with 8 children. Knowing their stories, helps when looking at the challenges in life. Some times you think, how did they do that. Other times, it is, I can't possibly have anything to complain about, they had it much worse. Life is wonderful, full of twists and turns that fills us with character, much like my wonderful trees.